Moving back in with your parents as an adult can bring up a whole range of emotions from safety and nostalgia to anxiety and even shame as you navigate this change in circumstances. While it may present its fair share of challenges, it can also be an opportunity for personal growth, deepening connections, and creating new memories as a family. Here we’ll explore how to adapt to living with your parents again and how to make the most of it.
Remember you’re not alone
Moving in with your parents can feel isolating, especially if you have moved far away from your friends or your lifestyle was very different, but it can be useful to remember that lots more people are choosing to live with their parents in recent years.
In fact, 30% of 25- to 29-year-olds now live with their parents and there’s been a 14.7% increase in adults living with their parents in the last 12 years, according to Ofsted. The pandemic, climbing housing costs and the cost-of-living crisis are cited as potential reasons for this trend, so try not to judge yourself if you find yourself in this scenario.
How to make living with parents work as an adult
Getting used to living with your parents can take some adapting if you’ve been living independently for a while. The same goes for your parents who have likely made their own routine. To help you ease into the transition, you might want to:
Set realistic expectations
Recognise that living with your parents as an adult requires compromise and flexibility. Honest communication about your expectations and concerns is crucial for establishing a healthy living dynamic.
Respect boundaries
Remember that you're re-entering their space, so it's important to respect their boundaries and privacy. Openly discuss and establish clear boundaries regarding personal space, chores, and responsibilities to maintain harmony within the household.
Share responsibilities
Contributing to household chores and expenses can ease potential tensions. Have an open conversation about how you can best support the household and find a fair balance that works for everyone involved.
What are the potential challenges?
Moving in with your parents has the potential to be a time of growth and connection, but it can also come with its challenges and triggers. By being aware of these, you can find ways to navigate them in a healthy way.
Lack of privacy
Finding privacy in a shared space can be tricky. Consider creating personal spaces within the home where you can retreat when you need some alone time. Establishing routines or rituals that allow for solitude can also be helpful.
Differences in routines and lifestyles
Each household has its own unique rhythm. You might find that your routine clashes with that of your parents. Be open to adapting and finding compromises that accommodate everyone's needs. It's an opportunity to learn from one another and embrace new perspectives.
Navigating parental expectations
Your parents might have certain expectations or opinions about your life choices, career, or relationships. Open and respectful communication is key to addressing any differences and finding common ground.
Tips for moving back in with parents
Challenges aside, living with your parents as an adult can allow you to redefine your relationship as adults and make new memories together. Here are some tips to help make the experience a positive one for all of you:
Make time for each other
Take advantage of this time to spend quality moments with your parents. Plan activities that you all enjoy, such as a board game night, movie marathons, or cooking together. These shared experiences can strengthen your relationship and create cherished memories.
Be open to listening
You all likely have different life experiences and opinions. Use this opportunity to learn from each other and engage in meaningful conversations. You might discover new insights and perspectives that can shape your own journey.
Appreciate the little things
Living with your parents again allows you to witness and appreciate the small everyday moments that make a house a home. From home-cooked meals to impromptu chats, take the time to appreciate these moments and express your gratitude.
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