This is probably a tough thing to hear but actually, your husband’s behaviour towards you amounts to domestic abuse. When seen through that lens, maybe you can accept that much of how you have felt and ‘been’ in this marriage are a consequence of what he has been both saying and doing. Sometimes people assume that it’s only domestic violence, e.g., when someone physically hurts their partner that counts. But in fact, things like controlling all the money, withholding information about money, rubbishing your opinions, cold shouldering you, making it difficult to have friends and family interaction and ruining whenever that does happen – all these things done on a consistent basis amount to emotional and financial abuse, essentially it’s coercive control. So too is that time honoured ‘go to’ place for abusive partners where they tell or imply that you’re making yourself out to be a victim. The implication being that you should not think it strange or unfair to be treated so badly. In essence, he has made you feel worthless and as anyone will tell you, when you feel worthless it’s even harder to decide what to do…