Summer is finally here which means longer evenings, sunny weekends and for some of us, maybe even a short-term romance to turn up the heat even more. But how can we ensure a fling stays fun and flirty without unnecessary heartache? This blog is your guide to navigating the highs and lows of your summer romance.
What is a summer fling?
Unlike like dreaded situationship, we’re talking about a casual romantic and/or sexual relationship that might not have longevity as its goal and that is openly acknowledged between everyone involved. These types of relationships often feel exciting and intense as you can throw yourself in without doubts about your long-term compatibility. While exhilarating, it can help to keep a check on things so you don’t end up getting burned.
Enjoying your short-term relationship
Setting clear expectations with yourself and each other from the start means you can fully enjoy your summer fling without doubt or anxiety. Only interested in hooking up rather than dating? Or can’t see yourself continuing the relationship once you return home from holiday? Power to you! It can be helpful to talk about your aspirations for the relationship to help avoid any misunderstandings.
Every relationship, regardless of its duration, can be a chance to learn more about yourself and what you want in life if you keep an open mind.
Open and honest communication
Communication is the cornerstone of any relationship, and your summer fling is no different. Being upfront about your intentions and regularly checking in with your partner/s about their feelings can make sure you’re both on the same page. Discussing your boundaries, comfort levels, and what you both want out of the relationship can pave the way for a positive experience from the start.
In fact, sex researcher, Dr Justin J. Lehmiller found that people who had good communication from the start of a ‘friends with benefits’ relationship were more likely to maintain some form of relationship after a year.
Being realistic and enjoying the moment
While summer flings can be exhilarating, it's important to check in with reality from time to time. Remember that the summer, and potentially the relationship, is temporary. The success of a relationship isn’t determined by how long it lasts and there’s nothing wrong with being in it for a good time, not a long time.
Knowing when to end things
There will likely come a point in your summer fling when you need to assess whether it's time to walk away. This could be at the end of a holiday, when your wants change, or when the relationship stops being enjoyable or respectful. Listen to your gut instincts – if something doesn't feel right, it might be time to end things.
Dealing with the breakup
Just because the relationship didn’t last months or even years doesn’t mean it’s always easy to move on. If you’re feeling a sense of loss and sadness, remember it’s normal to feel this when a relationship ends. It can help to speak to friends about how you’re feeling and find activities that you enjoy doing, just for yourself while you accept the change.
We’ll be posting more summer and holiday relationship tips over the coming month so you can have your hottest summer yet, and we’re not just talking about the heatwave! Keep an eye out here.